If you and your spouse have a child or children then this is inevitable. A decision will have to be made as to how the children will spend time with their parents. This means that unless sole custody is given to a single parent, the process is never over. It also means that there are many alternatives to choose from as to how the children’s time will be spent.
If you or someone you know is going through a divorce and need mediation, contact a divorce mediator in your local area today.
Joint Custody Schedule
There are many possible ways to share custody of the children. There are as many unique possibilities as there are parents. You need to decide which option works the best for your particular situation. Some possibilities for joint custody include:
- Alternating weeks: One week one parent will have custody of the children, and then the next week the other parent will get to spend time with the children.
- School year: During the school year one parent will have custody and the other parent will have custody during the summer breaks.
- Weekends: One parent will have custody during the week and the other on the weekends.
- Holidays and Birthdays: One parent will have custody only during these selected days.
- Custom: Any regular time frame that you can agree to is acceptable to use to change custody back and forth.
Sole Custody Schedule
Another option is to have one parent have full custody over the children. However, unless it is specifically stated sole custody does not have to mean that the other parent can never interact with the children. There are a few options to choose from:
- Legal: Only one parent can make decisions for the children, but does not deny physical access to the other parent.
- Physical: The children stay with only one parent, but both parents can still make decisions for them.
- Visitations: One parent has sole custody of the children, but the other parent can still choose to see the children according to a set schedule similar to that of joint custody.
A parenting coordinator’s job is to follow the agreement and use that as a base to resolve all future conflicts that arise. The PC can solve issues related to changes in custody periods as well as the upbringing of the children in general. The PC acts as a long term mediator, serving as a mutual third party to attempt to solve all problems equitably.
How to Make a Decision
Through litigation divorces, the court decides how to split the child’s time between the parents based on certain factors that the judge may or may not reveal to you. However, all of this can be worked on by the parents during mediation. During mediation both parents can work together to create a schedule that works for them based on the circumstances. In this way, the parents can have a say in how the decision on child custody will be made.
Getting Legal Help
How your children will spend time with their parents is a decision that will affect everyone involved for the rest of their lives, one that you can’t even make through litigation. It is important to have best legal representation to make sure that you make the right decision. Contact an experienced and knowledgeable divorce mediation lawyer today.